While the jealous person sees his or her actions (which are covetous) as a sign of his or her love, everyone else sees the actions as the obsessive traits that they are--an obsessive desire to possess, beyond any doubt, another person.
I've known women who wouldn't even talk to any men at all because they were afraid of what their boyfriends or husbands would do if they found out that "their woman" was talking to another guy. These women were, without exception, isolated and lonely and unhappy, but they were also unwilling to leave their partners--mostly because of fear. The obvious fear was of what their boyfriends or husbands would do, but there was also a fear of being alone there; they were afraid that they might not find another man to be with, and they were unwilling to risk loneliness.
The jealousy of their partners was ruining their lives, but I also have to wonder just how happy the jealous men were. Yes, they had their "possessions"--their women--but what else did they have? They certainly didn't have peace of mind, and they had no trust at all. They had a partner who stayed with them more out of fear than out of love or respect, and they were alienating many people by their jealousy.
Of course, there are explanations for their jealousy. Maybe they didn't have much when they were kids, and they're afraid of losing things now. Maybe because of situations in their past they have a need to control now. But no explanation can take away the fact that they're making themselves and others unhappy now, today. An alcoholic's abusive childhood may explain behavior, but the explanation can't bring back the family the was killed when the alcoholic was driving drunk. The jealous person needs to learn trust--most of all, trust in him or herself, trust that he or she is a worthwhile individual who deserves love and respect, and who will receive it as a matter of course from decent people who love and respect others.
Many jealous people, I've noticed, tend to surround themselves with untrustworthy people. Maybe this is a way of perpetuating or justifying or rationalizing their jealousy, allowing it to continue unabated. Maybe it's a reflection of what they think of themselves--since they don't trust themselves, they can't trust others, and being around untrustworthy people allows them to feel that their lack of trust is normal. No matter what, though, these jealous people are hurting themselves and others-- sometimes even physically--and if unchecked, jealousy is always a damaging factor in our lives. My hope is that the jealous people will learn to love and trust themselves as the great people they were created to be, and allow that trust to spill over to others in their lives.
Iago’s Jealousy Essay
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In Shakespeare’s tragedy Othello, good is often confronted by evil, in which almost every case is in the form of jealousy. Iago, the plays antagonist, is a very manipulative villain. Iago uses his own agony and distress brought upon him by his envy of others, to provoke the same agony within the characters in the play. Jealousy’s ability are shown to influence people to new ends and make all humanistic judgment disappear leaving that man a monster torn apart by envy. Jealousy’s true destructive wrath and the pure evil it brings out in people can be revealed through Iago’s actions throughout the tragedy Othello. Through out the play jealousy is a ruler over Iago’s thoughts and actions, influencing the way he feels about…show more content…
In Act “Oh, beware, my lord, of jealousy! /It is the green-eyed monster which doth mock/ The meat it feeds on. That cuckold lives in bliss/Who, certain of his fate, loves not his wronger,/But, oh, what damnèd minutes tells he o'er/Who dotes, yet doubts— suspects, yet soundly loves!” (3.iii.170-175). Through Iago’s witty nature he is able to nonchalantly set his malignant plan into motion by planting a suspicion in the mind of Othello. Iago harnesses in on the envious agony he endures and uses it as a weapon on the man he is envious of, leading to the destruction of him. Iago knows the ability of jealousy, and with this he knows he can manipulate Othello and make him feel the same discomfort he himself feels. This reveals the enormous amount of preparation Iago has put into his plan and the true evil that is brewing beneath the surface. Iago's loss of self respect and his loss of respect for others have led him to be an evil scheming beast with no account for the lives of others. Iago is a jealous beast and he knows the true power and control jealousy holds on a man, Iago knows the danger it holds and uses it in his favor against Othello. In Act 3 scene 3 Iago says “Dangerous conceits are, in their natures, poisons. /Which at the first are scarce found to distaste, /But with a little act upon the blood. /Burn like the mines of Sulphur. I did say so:/Look,